We all have those people in our lives that just seem to suck the energy right out of you. The people that no matter what the situation will always gravitate to complaining. This is one of the biggest stumbling blocks you will come across when trying to better your emotional health. I was one of those people once. Honestly its a lot easier to simply complain about life then it is to force yourself to see the good in everything.
Now that I am in the processes of changing my mind frame I find that there are certain people, I use to want to be around, that now I try to avoid at all costs. Its actually extremely frustrating to be around someone who is constantly complaining when you are trying to become a more positive person. Shout out to all of you that I might have done this to, I am sorry and now I know your pain! Now I actively avoid people that are always unhappy with life.
Unfortunately, there are some toxic people that you just cant avoid no matter what you do. Whether this is a co-worker or someone you live with it can get really tiring to be around these people. A strategy that I have started to develop with these people is to find something positive in my head for everything negative they say. If I am feeling frisky that day I might even say a positive thing out load every time they complain. This usually gets them right out of your way.
See, the thing about negative people is that it can become addicting to always be that way. I use to rationalize being negative by believing that it makes sure I am never really disappointed with a certain outcome. I am always prepared for the worse so when something goes right I can be surprised. In reality I was using my negative thought patterns as a crutch to get through life avoiding as much emotional pain as possible. But that is not truly living. You need to approach things with an open mind and an open heart. When things do not go your way you can still believe that the next day might present itself with a better opportunity. Being positive is not about being happy all the time. Its about knowing that there are always better days even when you are in the midst of a bad day.
In all honesty, I can thank my two siblings for their help in getting me prepared for a better life. A few months ago I was that toxic person. Always finding something to be unhappy about even though my life is really pretty amazing. My big brother really helped me see the light. He is in the process of his own personal development, and has always been a happy person. But lately he has been so focused on his emotional development that its hard not to be affected by his positively when you are in his presence. He led me toward two of the best books I have ever read. Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill and The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. These are amazing and should be read by anyone who is trying to better themselves.My little sister showed me the benefits of creating a calm environment for her baby before she gave birth. Now that baby is the happiest little thing in the world. All she did was calmed her mental storm, listen to relaxing music, and did Yoga during her pregnancy. With both of these people getting better before my eyes it allowed me to see the error in how I approach life. Now I am working every day to create a happier life for myself.
Avoiding toxic people is one of the first steps you have to take. Even if that person is your best friend you still need to remember that your mental health is more important than the feelings of someone who is dragging you down. You do not have to be rude about it. You can go about it anyway you want. But I feel that if you present a positive thought to each of their negative ones, they are either going to get on board with what you are doing or they are going to find another like minded person. Either way you win and your mental health is protected. Remember that this also includes your social media friends! So go out there today and respond with positivity to every negative thing that happens! Have a wonderful day and don’t forget to smile!
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